The Concept Of Letting Go

A  good example of how dependencies trap us, is that of the monkey; you can trap a monkey by giving it a jar with peanuts in it. The monkey puts its hand in the jar to get the peanuts. On having its hand full of peanuts it can't get it out of the jar, so it has got trapped. To free itself the only thing it has to do is let go of the peanuts and that way it will be able to take its hand out. That is how we are at times; we don't let go and we stay trapped in situations, in people, in the past. 

Along the way, we will find a lot of jars with peanuts in and branches to settle down on - many scenes that will attract us and please us. The dependency begins, almost without our realizing, when we begin to feel the desire to be in these situations. The pleasure turns into desire, the desire turns into need and the need turns into habit, then to dependence and finally into an addiction. It is fine to enjoy the branches, but let us keep awake and alert - conscious of our freedom - in order not to fall into dependence; enjoying the branch or jar without it trapping us.

A Little Wisdom goes a long way.When you give you will always get it back.

A father left 17 camels as an asset for his three sons.

When the father passed away, his sons opened up the will. The Will of the father stated that the eldest son should get half of 17 camels while the middle son should be given 1/3rd (one-third).The youngest son should be given 1/9th (one-ninth) of the 17 camels.

As it is not possible to divide 17 into half or 17 by 3 or 17 by 9, three sons started to fight with each other.

So, the three sons decided to go to a wise man.
The wise man listened patiently about the Will. The wise man, after giving this thought, brought one camel of his own and added the same to 17. That increased the total to 18 camels.

Now, he started reading the deceased father’s will.
Half of 18 = 9. So he gave the eldest son 9 camels.
1/3rd of 18 = 6. So he gave the middle son 6 camels.
1/9th of 18 = 2. So he gave the youngest son 2 camels.

Now add this up: 9 plus 6 plus 2 is 17 and this leaves one camel, which the wise man took back.

MORAL: The attitude of negotiation and problem solving is to find the 18th camel i.e. the common ground. Once a person is able to find the common ground, the issue is resolved. It is difficult at times. However, to reach a solution, the first step is to believe that there is a solution. If we think that there is no solution, we won’t be able to reach any!

1.To provide space for the gas generated inside the petrol tank.

2.Many of us are not aware that the petrol kiosk pump has a return pipe-line (in Pink). When the petrol tank (in the car) reaches full level, there is a mechanism to trigger off the pump latch and at the same time a return-valve is opened (at the top of the pump station) to allow excess petrol to flow back into the pump. But the return petrol has already pass through the meter, meaning you are donating the petrol back to the Oil Dealer.

3.Also only fill up your car or truck in the early morning when the ground temperature is still cold. Remember that all service stations have their storage tanks buried below ground. The colder the ground the more dense the petrol, when it gets warmer petrol expands, so buying in the afternoon or in the evening....your liter is not exactly a liter. In the petroleum business, the specific gravity and the temperature of the petrol, diesel and jet fuel, ethanol and other petroleum products plays an important role. A 1-degree rise in temperature is a big deal for this business. But the service stations do not have temperature compensation at the pumps.

4.When you're filling up do not squeeze the trigger of the nozzle to a fast mode If you look you will see that the trigger has three (3) stages: low, middle, and high. You should be pumping on low mode, thereby minimizing the vapours that are created while you are pumping. All hoses at the pump have a vapour return. If you are pumping on the fast rate, some of the liquid that goes to your tank becomes vapour. Those vapours are being sucked up and back into the underground storage tank so you're getting less worth for your money.

5.One of the most important tips is to fill up when your Petrol tank is HALF FULL. The reason for this is the more Petrol you have in your tank the less air occupying its empty space. petrol evaporates faster than you can imagine.

6.Another reminder, if there is a petrol truck pumping into the storage tanks when you stop to buy Petrol, DO NOT fill up; most likely the petrol is being stirred up as the Petrol is being delivered, and you might pick up some of the dirt that normally settles on the bottom.

பேசும்முன் கேளுங்கள், எழுதும்முன் யோசியுங்கள், செலவழிக்கும்முன் சம்பாதியுங்கள்

சில சமயங்களில் இழப்புதான் பெரிய ஆதாயமாக இருக்கும்

யாரிடம் கற்கிறோமோ அவரே ஆசிரியர். கற்றுக்கொடுப்பவரெல்லாம் ஆசிரியர் அல்லர்.

நான் மாறும்போது தானும் மாறியும், நான் தலையசைக்கும்போது தானும் தலையசைக்கும் நண்பன் எனக்குத் தேவையில்லை. அதற்கு என் நிழலே போதும்!

நோயை விட அச்சமே அதிகம் கொல்லும்!

நான் குறித்த நேரத்திற்குக் கால்மணி நேரம் முன்பே சென்று விடுவது வழக்கம். அதுதான் என்னை மனிதனாக்கியது.

நம்மிடம் பெரிய தவறுகள் இல்லை எனக் குறிப்பிடுவதற்கே, சிறிய தவறுகளை ஒப்புக்கொள்கிறோம்!

வாழ்க்கை என்பது குறைவான தகவல்களை வைத்துக்கொண்டு சரியான முடிவுக்கு வரும் ஒரு கலை.

சமையல் சரியாக அமையாவிடில் ஒருநாள் இழப்பு. அறுவடை சிறக்காவிடில் ஒரு ஆண்டு இழப்பு. திருமணம் பொருந்தாவிடில் வாழ்நாளே இழப்பு.

முழுமையான மனிதர்கள் இருவர். ஒருவர் இன்னும் பிறக்கவில்லை. மற்றவர் இறந்துவிட்டார்.

ஓடுவதில் பயனில்லை. நேரத்தில் புறப்படுங்கள்

எல்லோரையும் நேசிப்பது சிரமம். ஆனால் பழகிக்கொள்ளுங்கள்

நல்லவர்களோடு நட்பாயிரு. நீயும் நல்லவனாவாய்

காரணமே இல்லாமல் கோபம் தோன்றுவதில்லை. ஆனால் காரணம் நல்லதாய் இருப்பதில்லை

இவர்கள் ஏன் இப்படி? என்பதை விட, இவர்கள் இப்படித்தான் என எண்ணிக்கொள்

யார் சொல்வது சரி என்பதல்ல, எது சரி என்பதே முக்கியம்

ஆயிரம் முறை சிந்தியுங்கள். ஒருமுறை முடிவெடுங்கள்

பயம்தான் நம்மைப் பயமுறுத்துகிறது. பயத்தை உதற் எறிவோம்

நியாயத்தின் பொருட்டு வெளிப்படையாக ஒருவருடன் விவாதிப்பது சிறப்பாகும்

உண்மை புறப்பட ஆரம்பிக்கும் முன் பொய் பாதி உலகத்தை வலம் வந்துவிடும்

உண்மை தனியாகச் செல்லும். பொய்க்குத்தான் துணை வேண்டும்

வாழ்வதும் வாழ்விடுவதும் நமது வாழ்க்கைத்  தத்துவங்களாக ஆக்கிக்கொள்வோம்.

தன்னை ஒருவராலும் ஏமாற்ற முடியாது எனச் செருக்கோடு இருப்பவனே கண்டிப்பாக ஏமாந்து போகிறான்

உலகம் ஒரு நாடக மேடை ஒவ்வொருவரும் தம் பங்கை நடிக்கிறார்கள்

செய்வதற்கு எப்போதும் வேலை இருக்கவேண்டும் . அப்போது தான் முன்னேற முடியும்

அன்பையும் ஆற்றலையும் இடைவிடாது வெளிப்படுத்துகிறவர் ஆர்வத்துடன் பணிபுரிவர்

வெற்றி பெற்றபின் தன்னை அடக்கி வைத்துக்கொள்பவன், இரண்டாம் முறையும் வென்ற மனிதனாவான்

தோல்வி ஏற்படுவது அடுத்த செயலைக் கவனமாகச் செய் என்பதற்கான எச்சரிக்கை.

பிறர் நம்மைச் சமாதானப்படுத்த வேண்டும் என்று எதிர்பார்க்காமல், நாம் பிறரைச் சமாதானப்படுத்த முயற்சிக்க வேண்டும்.

கடினமான செயலின் சரியான பெயர்தான் சாதனை. சாதனையின் தவறான விளக்கம் தான் கடினம்

ஒன்றைப்பற்றி நிச்சயமாக நம்ப வேண்டுமென்றால் எதையும் சந்தேகத்துடனே துவக்க வேண்டும்

சரியானது எது என்று தெரிந்த பிறகும் அதைச் செய்யாமல் இருப்பதற்குப் பெயர்தான் கோழைத்தனம்.
 
ஒரு துளி பேனா மை பத்து இலட்சம் பேரைச் சிந்திக்க வைக்கிறது

Tips for Parents from Mr.Shabbar Suterwala, Business Coach, Psychological Counsellor, NLP Practitioner
 
Don’t make comparisons. (“I don’t understand it. When Johnny was her age, he could already tie his shoes.”) Each child feels he is unique and rightly so-he is unique, and he resents being evaluated only in relation to someone else. Instead of comparison, each child in the family should be given his own goals and levels of expectation that relate only to him.
 
Don’t dismiss or suppress your children’s resentment or angry feelings. Contrary to what many people think, anger is not something we should try to avoid at all costs. It’s an entirely normal part of being human, and it’s certainly normal for siblings to get furious with one another. They need the adults in their lives to assure them that mothers and fathers get angry, too, but have learned control and that angry feelings do not give license to behave in cruel and dangerous ways. This is the time to sit down, acknowledge the anger (“I know you hate your brother right now but you cannot hit him with a stick”). and talk it through.
 
Try to avoid situations that promote guilt in siblings. First we must teach children that feelings and actions are not synonymous. It may be normal to want to hit the baby on the head, but parents must stop a child from doing it. The guilt that follows doing something mean is a lot worse than the guilt of merely feeling mean. So parental intervention must be quick and decisive.
 
When possible, let brothers and sisters settle their own differences. Sounds good but it can be terribly unfair in practice. Parents have to judge when it is time to step in and mediate, especially in a contest of unequals in terms of strength and eloquence (no fair hitting below the belt literally or figuratively). Some long-lasting grudges among grown siblings have resulted when their minority rights were not protected.
 
Common Mistakes Parents make are: 
 
1. Taking sides such as attempting to punish the child who is at fault, usually the one seen pounding on the other child. (How long has this child put up with the taunting of the other child before taking drastic measures?)
 
2. Ignoring appropriate behavior. Parents often ignore their children when they are playing nicely. They only pay attention when a problem arises. 

HONEY & CINNAMON:

It is found that mixture of Honey and Cinnamon cures most of the diseases. Honey is produced in most of the countries of the world. Honey has been used as a vital medicine for centuries. Scientists of today also accept honey as a very effective medicine for all kinds of diseases. Honey can be used without any side effects for any kind of diseases. Today’s science says that even though honey is sweet, if taken in the right dosage as a medicine, it does not harm diabetic patients also. Here we present a list of diseases that can be cured by Honey and Cinnamon as researched by western scientists.

Arthritis 
Take one part honey to two parts of lukewarm water and add a small teaspoon of cinnamon powder, make a paste and massage it on the itching part of the body slowly. It is noticed that the pain recedes within a minute or two. Or arthritis patients may daily, morning and night take one cup of hot water with two spoons of honey and one small teaspoon of cinnamon powder. If drunk regularly even chronic arthritis can be cured. In a recent research done at the Copenhagen University, it was found that when the doctors treated their patients with a mixture of one tablespoon Honey and half teaspoon cinnamon powder before breakfast, they found that within a week out of the 200 people so treated practically 73 patients were totally relieved of pain and within a month, mostly all the patients who could not walk or move around because of arthritis started walking without pain.

Hair Loss 
Those suffering from hair loss or baldness, may apply a paste of hot olive oil, one tablespoon of honey, one teaspoon of cinnamon powder before bath and keep it for approx. 15 min. and then wash the hair. It was found to be very effective.

Bladder Infections 
Take two tablespoons of cinnamon powder and one teaspoon of honey in a glass of luke warm water and drink it. It destroys the germs of the bladder.

Toothache 
Make a paste of one teaspoon of cinnamon powder and five teaspoons of honey and apply on the aching tooth. This may be done 3 times a day daily till such time that the tooth has stopped aching.

Cholesterol 
Two tablespoons of honey and three teaspoons of Cinnamon Powder mixed in 16 ounces of tea water, if given to a cholesterol patient, it reduces the level of cholesterol in the blood by 10% within 2 hours. As mentioned for arthritic patients, if taken 3 times a day any chronic cholesterol is cured. As per the information received in the said journal, pure honey taken with food daily relieves complains of cholesterol.

Cold and Cough 
Those suffering from common or severe colds should take one tablespoon lukewarm honey with 1/4 teaspoon cinnamon powder daily for 3 days. This process will cure most chronic cough, cold and clear the sinuses.

Infertility 
Since ancient times, it is commonly known, that the use of honey strengthens the semen of men. If impotent men regularly take two tablespoon of honey before sleeping, their problem will be solved. In China, Japan and Far-East countries, women who do not conceive and to strengthen the uterus have been taking cinnamon powder for centuries. Women who cannot conceive may take a pinch of cinnamon powder in half teaspoon of honey and apply it on the gums frequently throughout the day, so that it slowly mixes with the saliva and enters the body.

Upset Stomach 
Honey taken with cinnamon powder cures stomach ache and also clears stomach ulcers from the root.

Gas 
According to the studies done in India & Japan, it is revealed that if honey is taken with cinnamon powder the stomach is relieved of gas.

Heart Diseases 
Make a paste of honey and cinnamon powder, apply on bread instead of jelly and jam and eat it regularly for breakfast. It reduces the cholesterol in the arteries and saves the patient from heart attack. Also those who have already had an attack, if they do this process daily, are kept miles away from the next attack. Regular use of the above process relieves loss of breath and strengthens the heartbeat.

Immune System 
Daily use of honey and cinnamon powder strengthens the immune system and protects the body from bacteria and viral attacks. Scientists have found that honey has various vitamins and iron in large amounts. Constant use of honey strengthens the white blood corpuscles to fight bacteria and viral diseases.

Indigestion 
Cinnamon powder sprinkled on two tablespoons of honey taken before food, relieves acidity and digests the heaviest of meals.

Influenza 
It has been proved that honey contains a natural ingredient, which kills the influenza germs and saves the patient from flu. Longevity Tea made with honey and cinnamon powder, when taken regularly arrests the ravages of old age. Take 4 spoons of honey, 1 spoon of cinnamon powder and 3 cups of water and boil to make like tea. Drink 1/4 cup, 3 to 4 times a day. It keeps the skin fresh and soft and arrests old age. Life span also increases and even if a person is 100 years old, starts performing the chores of a 20 year old.

Pimples 
Three tablespoons of honey and one teaspoon of cinnamon powder paste. Apply this paste on the pimples before sleeping and wash it next morning with warm water. If done daily for two weeks, it removes pimples completely.

Skin Infections 
Eczema, ringworm and all types of skin infections are cured by applying honey and cinnamon powder in equal parts on the affected parts.

Weight Loss 
Daily in the morning, 1/2 hour before breakfast on an empty stomach and at night before sleeping, drink honey and cinnamon powder boiled in one cup water. If taken regularly it reduces the weight of even the most obese person. Also drinking of this mixture regularly does not allow the fat to accumulate in the body even though the person may eat a high calorie diet.

Bad Breath 
People of South America, first thing in the morning gargle with one teaspoon of honey and cinnamon powder mixed in hot water. So their breath stays fresh throughout the day.

APRIL 6TH இயற்கை வேளாண்மை தினம் NATURAL FARMING DAY


இயற்கைக் காக்க தனது இன்னுயிர் அளித்த  இயற்கை வேளாண் விஞ்ஞானி நம்மாழ்வார் எல்லோர் நன்மைக்காக உலகில் உதித்த தினம் ஏப்ரல் 6. இனி மேல் ஏப்ரல் 6 தேதி இயற்கை வேளாண்மை தினம் என்று போற்றுவோம்.

To Save the nature & farming - he laid down his life. April 6th is the day he was born to work for the welfare of all. From Today Let us call APRIL 6TH as NATURAL FARMING DAY.

"நச்சில்லா உணவு " பூச்சிக் கொல்லிகள் மற்றும்  ரசாயன உரத்தால் "பசுமை புரட்சி " என்ற  பெயரால் நாடெங்கும் விளைவிக்கும் பயிர்களெல்லாம் விஷம் கலந்தது, மக்களுக்கு வித விதமான நோய்கள்  வந்தவண்ணம் உள்ளது. முக்கியமாக புற்றுநோய் பலருக்கு வந்து கொண்டிருக்கிறது. இந்த  சூழ்நிலை மாற தான்  பார்த்த  அரசாங்க வேலையை (விவசாயத்துறை அதிகாரி)உதறிவிட்டு 40ஆண்டுகளுக்கும் மேலாக மக்களிடையே விழிப்புணர்ச்சி ஏற்படுத்த இடைவிடாது பாடுபட்டார் இயற்கை வேளாண் விஞ்ஞானி திரு.நம்மாழ்வார் ஐயா அவர்கள்.

In the name of "Green Revolution" Government Introduced pesticides & inorganic Chemical manure from 1960s to give us poison filled food. These chemicals gave people lot of diseases & Cancer is peaking up. To overcome this adverse situation, Organic Farming Scientist Dr. Nammazhwar ( Many write it as "Nammalvar" which I don't prescribe - one it is wrongly spelt for Tamizh equivalent & other it was a war Nammazhwar was fighting) even left his job in the Government Agricultural Department to fight a long battle for last 40 odd years. 

நம்மாழ்வார் வெறும் விவசாயத்திற்காக மட்டும்  போராடவில்லை நாம் பண்டைய தமிழ் நாகரிகத்தின் படி  இயற்கையோடு ஒத்து வாழவேண்டும் என்பதற்காக அது குறித்து  விழிப்புணர்ச்சி கொண்டு  வர  தன் வாழ்க்கையை அர்பணித்துள்ளார். சமீப காலங்களில் மும்முனை தாக்குதலுக்கு உள்ளாகியிருக்கும் விவசாயத்தை மீட்பது மூலம் நமது எதிர்கால நலனை கருத்தில் கொண்டு  போராடினார்.

Nammazhwar didn't fight just for farming, he fought for bringing back highly civilized culture of Tamizhs on living in synchronized with Nature. To bring the awareness he has laid down his life. in the recent days Farming has been attacked by three violent weapons, by saving farming he has seeded for the safe future of all of us.


விவசாயத்தின் மூன்று எதிரிகள் Farming's three main enemies

1. பூச்சிக்கொல்லி -ரசாயன உரம் pesticides & Inorganic fertilizers

2. விவசாயநிலத்தை வீட்டு மனை ஆக்குதல் Farm land getting converted to real estate

3. கரியமிலபடுகை எடுப்பு திட்டம் Methane Gas Fracking from Farm Lands.

நம்மாழ்வார் அய்யாவின் வாழ்க்கை நம் ஒவ்வொருவருக்கும் ஒரு வழிகாட்டி.

Dr. Nammazhwar's life is a guide for all of us. Let us carry that forward.

நம்மாழ்வார் ஒவ்வொரு உயிரினத்தையும் மிகவும் நேசித்தார். அவர் ஒருங்கிணைந்த பண்ணையத்தில் நிரந்திர வேளாண்மையே எல்லா நிலங்களிலும் நடைபெறவேண்டும் என்று விரும்பினார். 

Nammazhwar loved all creatures. he prescribed Integrated farming where all forms of living things shall co-exist. We will continue his work to attain the goal.

இந்த வருடத்திய வெயில்  காலம் மிகவும் கடுமையாக  உள்ளது. ஒவ்வொருவரும் சக  உயிர்களுக்காக சிறிது தண்ணீர் வைப்போம்.

This year Summer is really hot. Let us keep some water for all our fellow living things.

 நம்மாழ்வார் நினைவில் தண்ணீர் பந்தல் - தெருவில் இருக்கும் உயிர்களுக்காக, மொட்டைமாடியில் பறவைகளுக்காக, மனிதர்களுக்காக பானையிலும் வைக்கப்பட்டுள்ளது.

In the Name of Nammazhwar RESPONSIBLE CITIZEN have started keeping water for all street animals, Birds (at Terrace) & for Human Beings in Pot.

பொறுப்புள்ள குடிமக்களின்  ஒரு சிறு  முயற்சி. A small initiative from RESPONSIBLE CITIZEN

பொறுப்புள்ள குடிமக்கள், தலைமையகம், வேளச்சேரி, சென்னை 

I have recently been reading up a bit on the life and work of British theoretical physicist Stephen Hawking. In my reading, I have run across a number of his famous quotes that are both funny and insightful. He is widely considered to be among the most intelligent people living today. Here is what he has to say…
  
1. "Eternity is a very long time, especially towards the end."
  
2. "The whole history of science has been the gradual realization that events do not happen in an arbitrary manner, but that they reflect a certain underlying order, which may or may not be pinely inspired."
  
3. "Life would be tragic if it weren't funny."
  
4. "To show this diagram properly, I would really need a four dimensional screen. However, because of government cuts, we could manage to provide only a two dimensional screen."
  
5. "My expectations were reduced to zero when I was 21. Everything since then has been a bonus."
  
6. "Someone told me that each equation I included in the book would halve the sales. In the end, however, I did put in one equation, Einstein's famous equation, E = mc2. I hope that this will not scare off half of my potential readers."
  
7. "I find that American & Scandinavian accents work better with women." In response to a question about the American accent of his synthesiser.
  
8. "My goal is simple. It is a complete understanding of the universe, why it is as it is and why it exists at all."
  
9. "I have noticed even people who claim everything is predestined, and that we can do nothing to change it, look before they cross the road."
  
10. "Einstein was wrong when he said "God does not play dice". Consideration of black holes suggests, not only that God does play dice, but that He sometimes confuses us by throwing them where they can't be seen."

Every man who wants to develop his personality also wants to become popular. Man’s life is a burden without popularity. If we leave aside certain action, there is not much difference between a man and an animal. Everybody can be popular if he/you takes care of these few enlisted personality development tips. These personality development tips are very simple to read but they are very effective and powerful- try in your day to day life.

1.      If you want to progress in life than honestly analyze the traits of your character.

2.      Do not laugh at people when they are in difficulty or trouble other wise you will loose your personality in a moment.

3.      This is a great way to develop your personality by listening everyone politely, even if their ideas are baseless or not of your interest.

4.      During conversation do not keep talking yourself too much.

5.      When ever somebody brings any gift for you, don’t forget to praise it. It does not matter even if you were expecting something else.

6.      Make other feel that you love them.

7.      Keep your moral high in case of defeat and be more polite on being victorious.

8.      Solve your problems in a creative way. Try your best not to let these spoil your relations with your friends.

9.      Enlist your bad habits and try to get rid of them.

10.    We should not uplift our standard of living but also help others to do so. Try to remove the feeling of inferiority in others by loving them and by keeping good behavior towards them.

11.    Be careful of what your say about others because others will say the same thing about us at different times and at different places and in this way form a public opinion about us.

12.    Some people often have a favorite sentence which they repeat frequently. We should try and get rid and get rid of such a habit.

13.   Independence increases our good qualities and personality and slavery bad qualities.

14.    Independent thinking and freedom to work is the only source of progress and welfare.

15.    Love is the greatest magic in this world. You can do every thing with help of love. Develop this art to improve your personality.

16.    Positive attitude is of great importance in our personality. No body like people who have narrowed out look. In life only that person is considered well behaved who has positive and healthy bend of mind.

17.    The real beauty of man lies not in his physical appearance but in his work and good qualities. That is why it is important that we improve mental outlook to develop our personality.

18.    Every individual should develop the ability to adjust with others, because basically man is a social animal, so one can not survive by living alone.

19.    Some people keep repeating a particular statement and it becomes a part of their nature. At the most you may repeat a statement twice but it you do it more than that it leaves a bad impact